• ScoffingLizard@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    17 days ago

    You don’t know when it happens. After working for a very, very ling time, I’ve realized that hidden relationships are all around you. Those networks absorb opportunities that you could have. The Good Ole Boys club is real shit.

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      16 days ago

      It absolutely is, and it works against anyone not in the club. I was once told by a GM in my company whom I knew outside of work, “you will apply for this job and get it. Then you will apply for that job’s manager’s job and get it. After that I won’t be able to help you.” Once I got outside his sphere of influence, I no longer had anyone advocating for me and haven’t been able to get any new jobs, lateral or promotion, since. To be fair, I’m not a great employee and have risen to the level of my incompetence; but I’ve seen other people get promotions who were not as good at the job as me because they do more of the company social stuff.

      And I know that those networks definitely favor men in my industry. So you’re right, even if there isn’t outright, noticeable discrimination against women; strong bias exists.

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      16 days ago

      that is gender agnostic. as s man i can tell you I’ve been excluded from most opportunities because i am not socially skilled.

      on the flip, I’ve neen told by appartment owners that i can’t live there because he felt the other renters (women, all) eould be uncomfortable with a man as a neighbor.

      i did not go to the equal opportunity organization to complain. besides, as a man i’d be laughed at and dismissed anyway.

      Women currently dominate the job market and educational institutions both as students and teachers. women get the vast majority of grants and discounts for college.

      it’s really men who are being discriminated against because “patriarchy”. i am an ex-feminist, btw.

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          10 days ago

          ehile men still outnumber women in participation rate, men are leaving the job market in larger numbers due to layoffs, and probably other reasons.

          labor force ttus of women and men, September 2026

          it’s a woman’s economy now

          as for educational support, this has been a commonly known fact for years now.

          more women get aid, though the awards are a bit lower than men.

          Gender Differences in Financial Aid Awards

          pell grants are more lopsided.

          Pell’s $6 Billion Dollar Gender Gap

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            8 days ago

            I just heard a guy complain about student aid disparities tonight. In the US, I wish they would limit that to black folks and natives. Asian kids and Indian folks getting scholarships without performance over white guys who do well is ridiculous, but blacks and native are owed a bit of leverage as reparations and to level the playing field. I know that’s unpopular, but there, I said it.

            I’m in engineering, and it’s hard to succeed as a woman in some places. It seems culture specific since I transferred to a different state and experienced a much different situation.

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              1 day ago

              i am nit denying that there is discrimination, I’m just pointing out that on average the discrmination goes the other way in recent decades. i am (was) a tech worker. I’m now too old to be hired - another discrimination problem.

              if you do a bit of reasearch, you wil find some horror stories from men who are or tried to be elementary school teachers. also, nursing is female dominated and I’ve seen a few unpleasant testimonials. don’t have verfied numbers at hand, but thise shoukd show therlther those are edge cases or common.