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Cake day: February 21st, 2026

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  • I’ve seen you comment a few times about doing it “too much”, but that’s pretty ambiguous given the wide range of sexuality. There are people who are asexual and have no interest, there are people with high sex drives where “once a day” is the average, and people with sex overdrive who let it rule their life.

    Maybe you just have a higher sex drive than you think you “should”. Without the context of knowing what you consider “too much” it’s difficult to have an opinion on whether it’s an actual problem or a perceived problem.

    Also, that time right after you finish and everything feels disgusting and you’re wondering WTF you’re doing… That’s the refractory period. This is a biological effect ‘designed’ to stop you from going right back at it and scooping your sperm out, thus reducing the chance of pregnancy. Women typically do not feel this effect as severely because evolution wants them to make babies (I believe this is the underlying cause to why many women are multi-orgasmic and most men are not.) Similar to the variances in sex drive, the refractory period has different intensities for different people. You might have a high drive and strong refractory, which seems like a mixture for self-loathing when you add societal stigma to it.