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Cake day: July 17th, 2023

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  • Hmm. It sounds as though your family is slacking on their end. They should be reciprocating, yes, but there may be a reason they aren’t. It’s possible they feel intimidated by you, for example.

    Honestly, I would recommend a one on one heart to heart with each of them. Ask them if they aren’t interested in you. It’s probably gonna be really difficult, but I think talking it out might be the best option.

    If you’ve tried this already, I’m afraid your family is firmly on the wrong side of things here.

    I wish you the best. I legitimately hope things work out for you and your family. Good luck, and keep at it! You’ve been doing a great job so far, you may also just need a break from things for a while. Maybe time for a camping trip?


  • Try “dumbing down” your language, though I’ve always hated that saying. Language is meant to convey thoughts and emotions, it’s up to the dealer to decide how they speak. Edit: meant to say that there’s no wrong way to speak so long as you convey what you need to.

    That said, if you like the way you speak, try to be more emotionally expressive as you talk. Smile, frown, whatever. Not to a comical degree, mind you.

    But the thing that’s most important is, everyone is different. It takes a different approach and amount of effort for each one, so try not to generalize people too much.

    And intelligence comes in many forms. Sometimes you gotta do a little digging to tease it out.