I never tell my mom anything because almost every time I speak with her she will, at some point, say "Don’t tell anyone, but [your sister | your niece | your cousin | etc]… "
Yeah, if you won’t keep their secrets, I know you won’t keep mine.
A secret shared by more than two isn’t a secret.
Sincerely,
The .env fileOne day when I was a teen, my mother came up to me and said, “I shouldn’t be telling you this, but-“
I quickly said “Then don’t.”
She stopped dead in her tracks and looked at me in shock. “What do you mean?”
“If you’re not suppose to tell me something, then don’t tell me. Don’t tell anyone.”
She slowly turned and walked away, dejected.
I stopped telling both of my parents anything personal or compromising at a young age because I couldn’t trust either of them to hold it in confidence.
Some people find sharing secrets builds relationships. I don’t understand it though
Sharing secrets builds trust, sharing other peoples secrets erodes it.
Sharing secrets builds trust. Smart people share innocuous secrets.
If I become president I’ll build trust with foreign diplomats by sharing the nuclear codes
They said “innocuous”, not “innuclear”
But “in-” means not, so… Both would be wrong I guess?
As a kid my friend told me about some vandalism he did. My mom pressured me to tell her if I knew anything about the vandalism and I made her promise not to share it.
Almost immediately she told my sister for pretty much no reason. Then my sister’s boyfriend was getting accused by the police so she told them that I knew something, to which I then had to answer questions to a cop.
I think my friend deserved the juvie time (and his uncle who enabled it the prison time) but it still pissed me off to force me to be questioned like that.
That and many other cases basically taught me my mom is incompetent and can’t be trusted with sensitive information.
If you’re reading this friend, sorry! Not sure what else to say.
The first time it happened with mine was when I was something like 7 years old. That’s the last time I told her anything. Done for life.
Every time this is posted, I wonder about these two dudes in the background who appear to be sharing a snack through the fence.
I learned when I was younger not to tell my mother anything you didn’t want her to share with others.
It only really got problematic when I ended up with a stalker ex.
My mother gets vague info from me now because anything I share immediately get told to all her friends and the rest of the family
I had cancer as a minor and specifically told my mom not to post about it on facebook and keep it within the family. Inside a week half the county knew and people were showing up to give us food. I don’t think she realizes that I would never tell her about any diagnoses of mine in the future or indeed is even capable of understanding how she broke my trust.
God I fucking hate that.
its suck a sickening unhealthy dynamic. The entire family does not need to be informed of every little thing happening/going on. If its something they need to know, I’ll tell them myself.
Just keep your fucking cunt mouth closed and stop crowing secrets like a goddamn rooster, Mother.
Hey look, that’s my mom to a T. All you need now is 10 years later her angry and confused why I don’t share intimate details about my life with her.
That is so weird. You are supposed to trust your parents and they are supposed to trust you.
My parents were pretty good at keeping my secrets, unless of course, it was guaranteed to blow up in my face. Then they did the parental mode override.
I was a pretty stupid kid so I did a whole bunch of dumb things and trusted that I’d never get caught. Inevitably I would get caught. Thankfully, my parents managed to at least soften some of the more dire consequences.
Also my lazy ass, who doesn’t want call every extended family member for medium important news: just tell ist mom without NDA and wait for a few days.
Back in the 2010’s one of the managers at my wife’s previous job was also at an event we were at and he asked her how our preparations were going for our move to another country. You know how he found out? He was dating my wife’s aunt (mother’s sister), and my wife only told her mother of our plans because she didn’t want to make a big deal out of it with her extended family.
What secrets do you all have that you are telling your parents? I don’t think there is anything I told my parents that I didn’t share with friends or others
