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Cake day: June 15th, 2026

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  • That’s helpful. Thank you. I have a very similar issue that I’ve been dealing with for some time. Mine specifically relates to pornography but overall it’s called sex addiction. It’s been very bad for me too. I’d spend hours doing it and usually used drugs and/or alcohol as an “enhancer”. It’s had some devastating consequences including depression, attempted suicide and problems in my marriage. But I’ve found something that’s helped quite a bit called Smart Recovery. It’s a science and evidence based approach to addiction; any addiction, including drugs and alcohol. It’s much different than AA where they believe that no one can recover on their own without believing that god is the only one that can help and you have to give yourself over to “his will”. I don’t believe in god and find their approach bullshit. But I know it helps some people and that’s what really counts. It’s just not for me. Smart has daily meetings online and you’ll find occasional ones in person in your area if they’re available. Search for Smart Recovery meetings and you’ll find a page listing all the meetings they have for that day. You can filter different things like language, adults or family, and location (which obviously doesn’t matter online). They also have a workbook with their principals and exercises you can do. When you join an online meeting you don’t have to give your real name or be on camera or even say anything. And some of the moderators are fantastic. You’re free to attend as many different meetings as you want to find a group that works for you. You should try it out. I’ll be glad to answer any more questions if you have them. And one last thing, I’ve had plenty of great sex and yet still found the pull of this to be overwhelming. So keep in mind you can still have a hot partner willing to do anything and still suffer from this. Hope you have a good day. And another last thing, lol, is that this is a complicated issue where you obviously can’t abstain from jerking off and having sex. It allows you to engage with those things in a much more healthy way.